Unequally Yoked Relationships

Scripture says in 2 Corinthians 6:14: “Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?” NLT

The more I grow and the more I see; the more I understand the importance of being like-minded with the people you do life with every day. 

This scripture literally applies to EVERY area of your life. 

From the Business perspective, if you do business with someone who doesn’t believe the same as you…often times there is a lot of conflict. No chemistry. They won’t want to do things a certain way, there may be ethical issues. They will have their own agenda on how they can do something; making the experience painful and less productive, less fruitful. 

The same stuff applies in dating. A few weeks back this new person I met at a friend’s house asked: Why did I want to date a Christian? Why not be open to dating people of different religion? He believed that people miss out on love for being closed minded and not willing to be open to dating people of other religion. 

For me having dated nonbelievers in my past and people in the past who weren't Mature Christians I would say...as I am still single - did me no good. Obviously! So, why would I go back there? Why would I intentionally cause frustration in my life? 

At the age of 30 years old, I can say I have lived some and I really understand the importance it is to be equally yoked, in a relationship. Relationships have a lot to deal with already and to not be on the same page would make it stressful. We may even go to the same church but yet differ by having different likes, expectations and values. Some of us are more mature than others. So, just because someone is a Christian doesn't mean we are equally yoked.

When I think about being equally yoked in a relationship, it doesn't just mean believing in the same God. It’s much deeper than just that. It means having the same outlook on life as my partner. We may differ to some degree BUT at the end of the day we are both for the same God and have the same values. So, don't just jump into a relationship or rush into a marriage with a Christian just because they are a Christian but really evaluate if you are REALLY equally yoked with that person.